Yes, I am a Dominatrix.

Theme number two is the Real Me versus Octavia. It typically comes up now and then, however recently it has become a near daily occurence. While explaining My phone sessions to a new member of the shop's staff, he replied, "You're a Dominatrix?!?! But you're so nice!" During a phone session,"After reading your blog, I can't decide which relationship to persue with you...a completely debased and humiliated slave or friend." Why not both? I say. I received the sweetest note from another Domme in response to My newest ad on niteflirt, which contains a link to the blog with the proviso not to visit if you can't handle the idea that I am not in a corset and six-inch heels at all times.

I suppose it should be a valid question, which Me is really Me. However I know that one side just isn't quite right without the other. Ask anyone who knows Me IRL how much I needed the outlet BDSM play provides during the time I was "semiretired." Often, My intellect/ability to articulate Myself/or really I guess My personality receive complements while in role. What? Have they never met a Dominatrix who reads before? or laughs at something other than their pathetic penis size?

When it comes down to it, I am grateful to have both lives. Each enriches the other. Too much of any one thing is dangerous (slaves: the preceding comment does NOT apply to your addiction to Me. hehehehe ) When I took My fetish sabbatical back in '99, I was burnt out. There were many factors contributing to why or how I ended up sleeping, breathing, even at times eating ('member Nouvelle Justine?) fetish. I was sleeping at the dungeon while I was between apts and working as a personal assistant for one of Arena's owners. So I slept at the studio, did sessions at night and spent My days coordinating the print and web advertising for (as I often affectionately referred to My co-workers at that time) 20 Diva Bitches as well as tons of prep for our annual event: The Black and Blue Ball. Note: This year's is May 20th.

Prostitution, the **REAL**Me, and the OED

Ever notice how life can be incredibly thematic sometimes? Over the past two weeks, two topics have popped up repeatedly: prostitution and the real Me versus Octavia. Of course the hooker thing is always somewhere in My brain as I read Belle's & Laura's blogs regularly. But I was at Barnes & Noble and I began reading Diary of a Manhattan Call Girl by Tracy Quan (yes, I am one of thosepeople who pretend B&N is a library rather than a retail shop). The next day I heard from both of My friends who are actually NYC working girls. One of them I hadn't spoken with in nearly five years! Even though I do not engage in traditional sex acts with My clients, I consider Myself a sex worker. Any Domme that claims session is not a sexual act is very much in denial. To continue with how the forces of the universe are conspiring to make Me think about call girls, I received an invitation to the PONY fundraiser this weekend, the same day I discovered the erotic services board on craigslist! The most interesting post I found was the one that defined the terminology. I will repost it here, since CL posts evenutally dissappear.:

EROTIC DICTIONARY

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Reply to: anon-29595409@craigslist.org
Date: 2004-04-24, 11:07PM EDT


Agency: An organization or individual that manages many providers. The agency handles all calls, bookings and advertising. The agency takes a percentage of the fee for each session.

All-inclusive: All services are included under one flat fee, no upselling, or hidden charges.

Angel/Feathers: Angel dust

Caveat: May also be used in ads to imply full service, as a bait-n-switch tactic, not a reliable indication of actual services provided.

Amazon: A tall, strong, often masculine woman.

AMP: Asian Massage Parlor

Around the world : Analingus and Fellatio.

Asian: Analingus , erotic stimulation achieved by contact between mouth and anus

Asian Cowgirl: Woman rides on top during intercourse, squatting over the man on her feet, not on her knees.

ASP : 1. alt.sex.prostitution: an unmoderated discussion forum (Usenet newsgroup) for prostitution and related topics. The acronym (ASP) is traditionally placed in the subject line of a post to be able to filter out spam. 2. Adult Service Provider

ATM : Ass to mouth. Penis, finger or toy comes out of her ass, and goes directly into her mouth.

Attempts : Trying to reach orgasm. e.g. She allowed multiple attempts: means she allows more than one orgasm per session if the client is able and interested.

ATF : All Time Favorite

Aunt Flo : Menstruation also; Period

B&S: Bait & switch: Internet, newspaper, or phone advertisements, which may include photos, written or verbal descriptions, do not match the woman who shows up, or she has been grossly misrepresented.

Babyback : Petite, young, attractive Asian woman.

Bag: Condom, with a condom e.g. "BJ in a bag"= CBJ,
"I filled the bag"= Orgasm.

Bait and Switch: Bait & switch: Internet, newspaper, or phone advertisements, which may include photos, written or verbal descriptions, do not match the woman who shows up, or she has been grossly misrepresented.

Baja Sur : Genitals. From the spanish "the low south".

Balloons : Breast implants.

Bareback : Without a condom.

BBBJ : Bareback Blow Job, oral stimulation of the penis without a condom

BBBJTC: Bareback Blow Job To Completion, oral stimulation of the penis to orgasm without a condom. (May spit or swallow)

BBW : Big Beautiful Woman, euphemism for overweight

BCD : Behind Closed Doors

BDSM : Bondage, Discipline, Sado-Masochism. This is a catch-all to refer to the various aspects of negotiated, mutually consensual exchange of power between two consenting adults. Regardless of the depth of the relationship, consent, safety and sanity are the cornerstone of the lifestyle.

Beret : A condom.

BF : Boyfriend

BFE : Boyfriend Experience, A subjective term used primarily by providers to describe good clients.

Birdwatching : BBBJTC and she swallows.

Blackhole: Anus.

BLS : Ball licking and sucking.

Blue Pill : Viagra

Blue Steel : Viagra

Brown Shower: Defecation on your partner. Being shit on or To Shit on.

BS : Body slide. Service where woman may slide her body on yours using oil.

Butter face : A women whose body is very attractive, but her face is not.

Call Girl : Outcall provider, usually implies agency.

Cash and Dash: A rip-off. She shows up, takes your money, doesn't provide, might offer to "dance", and leaves.

CBJ : CBJ, Covered Blow Job, fellatio with a condom

CC: 1. Roman Numeral for 200. Roman numerals sometimes used for fees. (Roman Numeral converter) 2. Credit Card
CC Rider : A provider who is FS for $200/hr or less.

CD : Cross-dresser: transvestite, a person, and especially a male who adopts the dress and often the behavior typical of the opposite sex especially for purposes of emotional or sexual gratification

CFS : Covered Full Service

CG : 1. Cowgirl 2. Call Girl

CIM : Cum in mouth.

Civilian : A woman who makes herself available for sexual encounters but not for financial gain. May be less discreet than a provider and more interested in a relationship.

Clockwatcher: A term for a provider who counts the minutes until the session is over. Usually used to describe a provider who rushes and does not enjoy her work.

Collar and Cuffs match: Pubic hair matches natural hair-color (redheads, blondes)

Commercial Company : Prostitution

Completion : Orgasm. e.g. She gave a bareback blowjob to completion.

Cover : A condom

Covered: Various measures, such as the use of condoms or dental dams, are taken to avoid diseases (as AIDS) transmitted by sexual contact. (e.g. Covered Blow Job means a condom was used.)

Cowgirl : Woman rides on top, knees astride.

Crime scene action: Sexual activity during her period.

Cruising : Looking for prostitutes while driving.

Cups of coffee : Orgasms (e.g. multiple cups of coffee means she allows more than one orgasm)

Dance and Dash : A rip-off. She shows up, takes your money, doesn't provide, might offer to "dance", and leaves.

Date : 1. A session with a prostitute. 2. A man who patronizes prostitutes.

Date Rape : Date rape or acquaintance rape is a form of sexual assault that happens specifically on a date or by someone that the victim knows or is acquainted with somehow.

Date Rape Drug: Rohypnol (generic name flunitrazepam) has been associated with date rape, and has also been called the "Forget Pill," "Trip-and-Fall," and "Mind-Erasers." In combination with alcohol, it can induce a blackout with memory loss and a decrease in resistance. Girls and women around the country have reported being raped after being involuntarily sedated with Rohypnol, which was often slipped into their drink by an attacker. The drug has no taste or odor so the victims don't realize what is happening. About ten minutes after ingesting the drug, the woman may feel dizzy and disoriented, simultaneously too hot and too cold, or nauseated. She may experience difficulty speaking and moving, and then pass out. Such victims have no memories of what happened while under the drug's influence.

DATO : Dining at the O, Anilingus, oral stimulation of the anus

DATY : Dining at the Y, Cunnilingus, oral stimulation of the vulva or clitoris

DDE : Doesn't do extras.

DDG : Drop Dead Gorgeous.

Deep throat : Fellatio where the whole length of the penis is "swallowed"

Defender : A poster who defends or "comes to the rescue" of a provider who has been reviewed poorly, regardless of whether the review is accurate.

Delta Omega Gamma : DOG.

Deposit : A provider requires an upfront payment in advance of a session. Deposits are usually used by providers as a screening tool to hedge against no-shows.

DFK : Deep French Kissing, kissing with tongue

Digits: 1. Fingers (e.g I put four digits in her pussy) 2. Phone Number (Often used in strip club reviews, johns work to get "digits" in order to set up off-premises sessions.)

DILF: Dads I Like to FUCK

Doggie Style : Intercourse position where woman is on her hands and knees, man enters from behind

Donation : Payment to a provider

Doubles : A threesome with two providers

DP : 1. Double Penetration 2. Digital penetration

DT : Deep throat: fellatio where the whole length of the penis is "swallowed".

Ed Zachary disease : A woman with an unattractive face.

Ellie : LE, Law Enforcement

EOM : End of Message - Used in a subject line to indicate no further content in body of message,

Enhancements : Breast implants.

Envelope: Often cash payments for a provider are placed in an envelope. Rather than handing her cash directly, or discussing money, the envelope is left in a conspicuous location for the provider to pick up as she leaves (outcall), or after the hobbyist leaves (incall).

Escort: A woman who is paid for her companionship.

Face painting : Man ejaculates on woman's face.

Facial : Man ejaculates on woman's face.

FBSM : Full Body Sensual Massage; not usually full service; expect only massage (usually nude or topless) and handjob, but more services might be available.

Five-O: A police officer (uniformed or undercover).

FJ : Foot job. Stimulation of the penis using feet and toes.

Flake, Flaky: Errant behavior, often used for providers who no-show and/or have scheduling issues.

FOTC : Fuck of the century.

French: Oral sex, on either party

FS : Full Service, Vaginal intercourse to completion

Full meal deal : Full Service, Vaginal intercourse to completion

Get comfortable: Get naked. For security reasons, a provider may ask a client to "get comfortable" or "make yourself comfortable" before a session, this means to get fully undressed.

GFE : Girl Friend Experience, A subjective term, but usually used as praise for a very passionate, sensual, non-mechanical experience. Most consider deep french kissing a baseline requirement for GFE.

Glove: Condom

Golden Shower : Urinating on your partner, urine play.

Greek : Anal Sex

GS : Golden Shower, urinating on your partner, urine play.

Half and half : BJ followed by FS

Hand Job : Stimulation of the penis using hand and fingers

Hardwood floors : Clean-shaven pubic area.

Herb Friendly : Is amenable to marijuana use.

Hidden Charges : A provider takes the advertised fee upfront, but midway through the session she asks for more money for more services. (e.g. She might undress and give a massage for the advertised $$, but then ask for an additional $ for French, or $$ for FS, etc.)

Hindu Massage (Argentina) : The woman contracts her vaginal muscles during sex to squeeze you to completion.

HJ : Hand Job, stimulation of the penis using hand and fingers

HM : High mileage.

HME : Honeymoon experience. A subjective term used as praise for a very intense, very "real" session, usually DFK is a baseline requirement for HME.

HR : Hand Release, stimulation of the penis to orgasm using hand and fingers

Hobby, The: The patronizing of prostitutes.

Hobbyist : A man who patronizes prostitutes.

Honey Dust: Edible honey flavored powder for sexual enhancement.

Hooker : Prostitute.

Hostess Club : A lower end strip club where bargaining for sex acts with the dancers is acceptable, and some activities may occur on premises.

Hungarian : Bare back blowjob to completion and she swallows.

HWP : Height and Weight Proportional (i.e. "normal" build)

Incall : You go to her place (Could be hotel, motel, studio apt, her residence, or a mini-storage unit)

Independent, Indie : An escort who works on her own, without an agency affiliation. The escort manages her own calls, bookings, advertising and finances.

Interpreter : Condom (e.g. She spoke French without the aid of an interpreter = BBBJ)

IPO : Initial public offering: used to denote the public introduction of a new provider, usually via a review.

ISO : In search of

Italian : Similar to Russian, but penis between partners butt cheeks.

Jack Shack : Refers to an establishment (massage parlor, lingerie modelling) that is not usually full service; expect only massage (usually nude or topless) and handjob, but more services might be available.

JAG : John's Action Guide Review board, mostly east coast.

Jimmy Hat : A condom

John : A man who patronizes prostitutes.

Kama Sutra : The earliest and best known of Indian sex manuals, by Vatsayayana. It has been variously dated from 300 B.C. to 400 A.D.

L/A/S : Looks/Attitude/Service: A subjective ranking system. Each criteria separately ranked, from lowest (1) to highest (10). Examples: 2/9/8 = Unnattractive, but very friendly and good sex. 10/5/4 = Model material, but a poor attitude, and mediocre sex.

Landing Strip: Description of pubic hair

LE: Law Enforcement.

LFK: Light french kissing. (no heavy tongue)

Little blue helper: Viagra

Little blue pill: Viagra

LMP: Licensed Massage Practitioner

Lot Lizard: A prostitute that works primarily in truck stop parking lots (usually soliciting from a CB radio).

Madame : Proprietress of an agency.

Mall, Escort Mall : A website that advertises many different providers. The providers may be independent or agency, and may or may not be associated with each other, or with the mall.

Man in a boat, little man in a boat : Clitoris

Mediterranean : Anal sex e.g. "She took me on a trip to the mediterranean."

Menage a trois : An arrangement in which three persons (as a married pair and the lover of one of the pair) share sexual relations especially while living together

Merkin : Pubic hair wig.

MG : Massage Girl

Mileage : A subjective term that describes value for money and/or how accomodating she is. Good mileage usually means she either charges less than average, provides better L/A/S than average, or both.

MILF : Mom I'd like to fuck.

Mish : Missionary position, Man on top during intercourse

Missionary : Man on top during intercourse

MMF, MFM, MFF : Threesome designations. e.g. MMF = male, male, female MFF = male, female, female.

Mohawk : Description of pubic hair.

MP : 1. Massage Parlor 2. Multiple positions

MPA : Massage Parlor Attendant

MPCFS: Multiple positions covered full service

MPOS : Multiple positions oral sex.

MSOG : Multiple shots on goal: she allows you to have more than 1 orgasm during the session

Multiple Pops : She allows you to have more than 1 orgasm during the session (e.g. more than one or multiple pops allowed)

Newbie: A novice hobbyist or novice provider.

No-Show: Escort or Client never shows up for an appointment, does not contact in advance to cancel or warn.

No-Touch : No touching allowed. (e.g. No-touch Jack shack, no-touch strip club)

Nooner : A lunch-time or afternoon session, popular with married hobbyists.

NQBC : Non-quitter, but covered. CBJ to completion.

NQBS : Non-quitter, but spitter. BBBJTC and spits your ejaculate.

NQNS : Non-quitter, non-spitter. BBBJTC and swallows your ejaculate.

NSA : No Strings Attached. NO RELATIONSHIP!

O, Os: Orgasm, orgasms.

Off-the-clock : Activities that occur with a provider that she chooses not to charge for. (e.g. "We had lunch off-the-clock")

Operation Flea Collar : 2 year LE investigation of TBD board, culminating in June 2002 bust of Charles Kelly and Steve Lipson, owners and operators of TBD board.

Out, Outed : Private, personal information on a hobbyist or provider is made public. e.g. Someone's real name and address is posted to a public forum.

Outcall : She comes to your place

OWO : Oral Without, fellatio without a condom.

Party hat : Condom

Pearl Necklace : Man ejaculates on woman's neck and/or chest

Pimp : A man who solicits clients for a prostitute.

Pooner: A hobbyist who is immersed in the hobby culture. e.g. He may be very involved with the review boards and/or private exchange of information on providers and the hobby.

Pops, multiple : She allows you to have more than 1 orgasm during the session (e.g. more than one or multiple pops allowed)

POS : Pussy on the Side

Professional or Businessmen only : A subjective request used in provider advertising as a pre-screen for clients. The provider posts this in hopes of attracting "better" clientele.

Provider: Prostitute

PS: Private Show (Dance only)

PSE: Porn Star Experience, A subjective term, used as praise for a provider that might have a high energy level, a particularly hot look, or is very accomodating ("nastiness" factor).

PV : Private viewing: Dancing, modeling, perhaps a HJ; not usually FS.

Raincoat : Condom

REQ: Request: Used in the subject line of a post to indicate the body contains a request for information.

REV: Review: Used in the subject line of a post to indicate the body contains review of a provider.

Review : A critical evaluation of a provider. May include information on her looks, attitude and service.

Reverse Cowgirl : woman rides on top, facing away

Reverse massage : The client massages the provider.

Reverse Oral : The client performs oral sex on the provider.

Rimming, Rimjob : Analingus, erotic stimulation achieved by contact between mouth and anus

Russian : Penis between her breasts

Roman: sex play involving vomiting

Safe : Sexual activity in which various measures, such as the use of condoms or dental dams, are taken to avoid disease (as AIDS) transmitted by sexual contact. e.g. All activities were safe.

San Juan Capistrano : BBBJTC and she swallows.

Sandbag, Sandbagger : A subjective term for a review (or reviewer) that misleads the reader by giving unwarranted praise to a provider.

Sans : Without. e.g. She provided french sans beret = BBBJ

Scat : Defecation on your partner or feces play.

Screening : A provider or agency does a pre-session background check on a new client. e.g. collecting verifiable personal info such as the hobbyist's real name, place of employment, home or work phone, home or work address, or a referral from a trusted provider. Upfront deposits may also be used as a screening tool to hedge against no-shows.

Search Function : A software feature that allows a user to search a review board or forum, based on a keyword or words. Most often, this feature is used to find existing reviews of a provider, or to check the review history of a hobbyist.

Self-post : A provider or agency poses as a hobbyist, and posts a highly positive review of herself or agency to increase business.

Self-Service : Masturbation. e.g. "It was a self-service jack shack" = no contact with the dancer, but the man can masturbate.

Sensual Massage : Not usually full service; expect only massage (usually nude or topless) and handjob, but more services might be available.

Session : Paid time spent with a provider.

Sex Worker : Catch all phrase sometimes used to describe prostitutes. May also be used in the context of strippers, peep show workers, topless waitresses.

SFH : Sex for hire.
SG : Street girl.
Shemale : Transexual, particularly one who is living as a woman, but hasn't had SRS. Penis may or may not get erect.

Shill : A hobbyist who writes unwarranted positive reviews in exchange for discounts or special favors from an agency or provider.

Shots on goal : Attempts to reach orgasm. e.g. She allowed multiple shots on goal: means she allows more than one orgasm per session if the client is able and interested.

Sixty Nine, 69 : Partners perform oral sex on each other simultaeneously.

Slam, Slammed An unwarranted harsh review or abusive criticism of a provider.

Snowball, snowballing : Provider takes ejaculate in her mouth and returns it via kissing to the ejaculator.

SO : Significant other.

SOG : Shots on goal, attempts at orgasm.

Soixante neuf : 69: Partners perform oral sex on each other simultaeneously.

SOMF : Sat on my face.

South of the border : Genital region.

Southern France : Fellatio without a condom.

SP : Service Provider, prostitute.

Spanish (Australian) : Penis between her breasts, Russian.

Spanish (USA) : Penis, finger or toy comes out of her ass, and goes directly into her mouth.

Spinner : A very petite provider. Etymology: From the 1970's toy, "Sit 'n' Spin"

Squirting, Squirter : Female ejaculation, a provider who ejaculates

SRS : Sexual reassignment surgery

STD : Sexually transmitted disease.

Sting : A female police officer poses as a prostitute to apprehend unsuspecting johns, or a male police officer poses as a john to apprehend unsuspecting prostitutes.

Street action : Prostitution that is solicited on public streets. Prostitutes (usually on foot) are picked up by Johns in motor vehicles. Sexual acts may occur in the vehicle, or at another agreed upon location.

Stroll : A street, strip, or neighborhood that sees heavy street action.

Summer teeth : Her teeth, some are there, some are not.

Sunshine, sunny: Without a condom (i.e. No raincoat)

SW: 1. Street walker. 2. Sex Worker

Sybian: A mechanical sex device that is in the shape of half-barrel with a dildo attachment mounted in the middle.

Take care of business: Payment is made to provider. e.g. "She wanted to take care of business first"

TBD:The Big Doggie, National Reviews and discussion (All major cities)

Teabag, Teabagging: Man squats and dips his testicles into partners mouth.

TER:The Erotic Review, National Reviews and discussion (All major cities)

TG :Transgender: Catch-all term for TV, TS, Shemales, and CDs.

Throne Job: Self-service hand job. Refers to an establishment that doesn't offer FS. The premises will only have a large chair or "throne" for you to sit on and masturbate while the woman dances for you.

Tipping required: Hidden charges, provider demands more than the advertised price in order to perform, or bargains hard for various services.

Took one for the team, TOFTT : A hobbyist reviews a provider who has no (or scattered) reviews. He was ripped off, or his experience was very poor. Ostensibly, he has helped save other members of the community (the team) from making the same mistake.

Toss the salad : Analingus

Translation, translator :Condom i.e. "She spoke fluent french without a translator" = BBBJ

TRB :The Review Board. Seattle reviews and discussion (Some British Columbia)

Trick : 1. A sex act for money 2. A man who patronizes prostitutes

Trolling : 1. The act of driving around looking for a prostitute 2. Posting to a discussion board with the intent to anger or incite others

TS:Transsexual: a person with a psychological urge to belong to the opposite sex that may be carried to the point of undergoing surgery to modify the sex organs to mimic the opposite sex

Tuft : Description of pubic hair.

TUMA: Tongue up my ass.

Turn tricks : Prostitution

TV=Transvestite: person and especially a male who adopts the dress and often the behavior typical of the opposite sex especially for purposes of emotional or sexual gratification

Umbrella:Condom.

Uncovered: Without a condom.

VD: Venereal disease

VFM: Value For Money.

VM: Voicemail.

VGL: Very Good Looking.

WAH : 1. From Wahei: peaceful, harmonious and calm (Japanese) 2. Wild Ass Humping

Water Sports: Urination play.

Weeklies : Alternative weekly newspapers. These often contain various adult service listings, including massage and escort advertisements. e.g. The Village Voice, San Francisco Bay Guardian, The Stranger.

WF: Wild Fuck

WG : Working girl. A prostitute.

White Knight: A poster who defends or "comes to the rescue" of a provider who has been reviewed poorly, regardless of whether the review is accurate.

With : With condom (e.g. French with = CBJ)

Without : Without condom. (e.g. French without = BBBJ)

Working girl: A prostitute.

YMMV : Your Mileage May Vary = Catch all phrase to remind that tastes differ, reviews are inherently subjective, and that providers have good and bad days, thus experiences vary.

YMMV Girl: A provider who is known for being inconsistent in her attitude and service. i.e. Gets hot and cold reviews.

$: The dollar sign is sometimes used for fees.
Usually $ = $100, $
$ = $200,
$$ = $300 and so on. Often .5 signifies $50, so $$.5 would mean $250.

69:Partners perform oral sex on each other simultaeneously.

411: Information, intel. e.g. "I got the 411 on her from jessejames69"

420: Marijuana Lovers/Fan

Snow/Ski: Cocaine Lovers/Fan.

Deaf: cant hear or talk on the phone.

Hearing-Impaired: cant hear but can talk on the phone

IPO: Intial Public Offering

I am a total lexiphile (now if someone would buy Me an OED, I could check if that was an actual word!). My major at Bennington was half creative writing. Have you ever seen Say Anything? It is one of My all time favorite movies, (alongside Audition, which will momentarily lead Me to the second theme). Do you recall that Ione Skye's character had a charming habit of placing a dot beside every word she had ever looked up in her dictionairy? I actually emulated that for a few years.

The second theme will be dealt with next...I promise.

Possibly Virtual Crack versus Very Real Heroin

I had a disturbing call the other day. Financial client. He hadn't seen a Mistress in over six months. His scene: forced crack smoking followed by large cash advances taken from his credit card. He said, "nothing else makes me so submissive and ready to be taken advantage of." Whoa! I don't even know where to begin to describe My feelings on this one. If this was just a phone fantasy, why shouldn't I let him think I'd be glad to score for him, immobilize him in bondage and hold a crack pipe up to his lips and command him to smoke it "for Me?" On the other hand, his decriptions seemed pretty real. Where did he dig up this former Mistress? I know the scene is rife with drugs, however I've managed (for the most part) not to be involved with those people. From a pop-psych perspective, it immediately makes sense: self-destructive behavior combined with intensity seeking. Honestly though, I've met more former drug addicts in the scene than current users.

Ironically, I am more often faced with morality issues at the shop. In the dungeon, I know what I am interested in doing for money and what I am not. My boundaries there are pretty clear. But do I buy a sealed KISS box set from a dopesick junky? Of course we can use the CDs. If I don't buy it someone else will, right? If I do buy it, am I an enabler? Do I care? Am I expressing an implicit approval of heroin use? If I make a completely lowball offer, am I taking advantage of someone in a desperate situation?

The Lumpy Couch

So often clients think that their scenario is exceedingly taboo or weird. Of course these are typically your run of the mill foot worshippers and crossdressers. Those are probably the scenes most frequently requested from Me. I'm sure My size 11 feet and extra curvy figure explain that. As requested (and planned anyway) I'll move onto one of My more unique sessions. I saw this client several times over the years and his deepest desire was to be furniture. Not in the way that a Mistress might punish a slave by forcing him to serve as an ashtray or drink holder. The session was primarily verbal with Me describing the upholstry and how very lumpy My new couch was! Think: hour long monologue about sitting on a new couch. If I was feeling particularly fiesty I might claim it was time to clean the couch and pluck a few chest or pubic hairs while complaining that the damn cat must have been shedding again.

G'day Mistress!

Last night I had My first bout of insomnia in over 6 years. Typically I can sleep anywhere, at anytime. I started thinking about OctaviaArena.com. Beyond My sheer lack of time, I've been hesitant to work on the site because most of My pix are so old. I made plans to shoot with both Nikki Johnson and Misa Martin "after Anguilla." Yet here I am with My tan fading fast and not a moment in My schedule to play dress-up other than for session.

In making notes for the site, I was listing out My most memorable and unique sessions. Two in particular made Me laugh out loud. The first was prearranged without My typical consultation because the client requested that he not meet with Me out of character. His desire was to see Me exclusively as "Uber Bitch," so a friendly chat beforehand was not an option. I carefully arranged My cleavage and My game face before I walked in the room. My client was nude, kneeling in the center of the room with his head bowed. As if I wasn't taken aback enough by how young and good looking My client was, just after I closed the dungeon door, he looked up and in a booming Australian accent greeted Me with "G'day Mistress!" I couldn't help Myself, I burst out laughing.